5 Ways to Make Real Change Happen
Monday, It wasn’t easy – I had to change a LOT
Difficult days are rewarding. The challenges you face are what make you better, more than what you were last week or last year.
Imagine that you are observing some amazing team, better than any you’ve ever been around. You ask the ScrumMaster, “Wow – how did you help them get to this place?”. He replies, “Nothing, they were like this when I showed up.” What kind of inspiration is that?
Yet, when you feel challenged, maybe even too much at times, these are exactly the points that push you into responding in new ways, trying things you haven’t before, becoming someone, perhaps, that you weren’t before. So when someone asks, “Wow – how did you help them get to this place?” you smile, laugh and say, “It wasn’t easy – I had to change a LOT. This is where it started…” and they will be all ears.
Homework: Do your own speedboat exercise. Draw a boat on a sheet of paper (yes, really – drawing connects with a different part of your brain). Now, draw three or so anchors off the boat that are slowing you down. For each anchor, write three actions that might help with each area. Now, choose three, and either add them to your personal kanban board, or calendar them.
Tuesday, If Nothing Changes, Nothing Changes
Yes, you really can change. I’ve wanted to learn to play guitar for years. In fact, I have one. I’ve had it for 16 years. Up until several weeks ago, I hadn’t played more than a song within any given season for at least 8 years. Maybe picked it up once in a month or two.
But now I’ve played it every day for weeks. I’ve caught up to where I was a decade ago and passed it. I’ve learned new songs and notes. I have callouses on my fingertips again. Not only am I playing, but my family is often joining in singing as they walk in and out of the room. Wonderful repercussions.
Why the change? It’s something that I really wanted for a long time, so not a lack of desire. Well, it’s habit. I added it to one of several daily check-off items on an app I use. Just wanting to flip it to green – done – has made me stop and do it. And now that I’ve gotten used to just finding a moment to do so, I’m finding more moments and connecting that decision with the reward of the feeling while I’m playing.
It may or may not work for you. It actually took me a couple of weeks, and some tweaking (I had to set a goal of having at least one day where I did ALL items on the check list). But, do something, and inspect and adapt. Because, if nothing changes, nothing changes.
Homework: If you have a smart phone, check out some of the habit-building apps. Start with one positive habit you’d like to build. If you don’t have a smart phone, try an online version, or try adding it to your calendar or daily to-do’s via Outlook or even good old paper.
Wednesday, Help the Elephant
The elephant and the rider. You may already be familiar with the story. Elephants can be guided by a rider down a path, but if the elephant really wants to go somewhere, it’s going to go there. Same with us and our desires and goals. We may want to go somewhere, but we’re often taken somewhere else by the elephant – our emotions. I may want to lose weight, but on a stressful day, I’m much more likely to eat chocolate (true). Or I can want to go running in the morning, and so set the alarm, but once it goes off at 5:30 AM, I don’t feel like getting up very much. It could be the same for wanting to speak, get into training, go back to school or a certification program.
Help turn one of your goals into a reality by helping the rider. Look for bright spots – times or situations that things did go well, or you did have some progress. What was happening in that? Script the critical moves – don’t inundate yourself with too many choices. What, specifically, needs to happen? Point to the destination – is there an end goal that the habit lines up with or supports?
And help the elephant, too. Shrink the change by lowering the bar so that you can get some success. One habit I had was popping my knuckles. Rather than trying to go all day, my first goal was just not to do it before 10 AM. Then it was 1 PM. Now it is all day. Studies were done that showed that people were 40% more likely to return to a car wash if they were given a 10 punch card with two punches already done, versus an 8 punch card with none.
Homework: How can you help the rider? What are the critical moves to successfully achieve the task? How can you help the elephant? What is a small starter goal to incrementally move toward success?
Share your ideas in the comments below…
Thursday, The Growth Mindset, or the Fixed Mindset
People generally fall into one of those two categories. The fixed mindset believes that we have a certain amount of abilities and that if we do or don’t do well at things – subjects, jobs, life, it’s because we don’t have what others have. If we did, we’d do well, naturally. The growth mindset believes that we can learn, grow and change in these.
Homework: Answer the questions:
1. People are born with a certain intelligence that stays fixed throughout life. True or False?
2. Choose one: Do you demonstrate your ability or increase your ability?
3. When you fail, what does it tell you?
Watch the TEDx video The Power of Belief
Check out Linda Risings YouTube videos on the Agile Mindset
Watch Carol Dweck’s Mindset video or check out the book or audio book.
Note: This article was originally posted on Agile Coach and Trainer Scott Dunn’s personal blog, “Software Development and Human Capital: Leadership, Agile and Strengths.”